I have been learning about communication. Ian often complains that when we have a discussion I very quickly adopt an adversarial position. Now I can't imagine why this might be, or how that might happen.
I think that I am a great listener. I can listen to a whole conversation and repeat word for word what the other person has said. What I find harder, is to have the humility to take in those words and consider them, reflect on them and re-assess my own point of view in light of what the other person has said. I think it is much the same in my relationship with God. I know His word pretty well. I could tell you which passages of the Bible might apply to a particular area of my life or I may be able to tell you what I think God is saying to me in prayer about a particular situation. Do I sit down and reflect and consider how that should apply to me and change my thinking and behaviour? Not always, possibly not even often, as i think i have taken it in by virtue of knowing it and understanding it. I do pray that God will work in me, so that not often can become nearly always in my relationship with Him and others.
So apologies again to my lovely husband - I'm working on it honey.
By the way, between 9 and 10pm on a week night is a great time to go shopping at Cribb's or to have a heated discussion and lesson about communciation in the car park.
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thanks Dizz, they may have mentioned that one but it didn't stick with me. Our conversation arose precisely because i was trying to tell Ian let's talk about it later! I just wasn't doing a very good job of saying it.
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